Bigger than You

It's amazing how people tend to box themselves up within their realities. Anything that seems "out of this world" or if it messes with their reality, is thought of as "impossible" and "impractical".

We all like to dream big, but how many actually chase that dream? And how many actually stick to it? Some people work towards seemingly huge goals and give up almost upon encountering the first failures. But most, don't even try. Time travel? "Impossible". Rock star? "Not feasible". Getting that chick sitting across the room? "She's probably a slut anyway". People love to judge situations before jumping in, sometimes it's good but mostly it's counter-productive.

Judging is good if we are objective about it, if we are conscious of the situation. But what is messes the whole thing up is when we drag subjectivity into the mix, when we become self-conscious of the situation and we bring personal biases even before acting. What's even worse than that? Bringing other peoples' personal biases into the picture.

Who said you couldn't be famous? "No one, but if it were that easy everyone would be famous."

Have you tried? "Not much, I joined a few competitions before."

What happened? "No one called me back, so I didn't bother."

"Anyway what I want now is to be rich, get lots of money and perhaps then everything will fall nicely in place."

Reality check: Not everything will fall into place. Most of the things you want, you have to work for. Sometimes other people work for things and give them to you. If that's the case, be thankful but don't get complacent. Sometimes I see people get opportunities that I've worked hard to get but never gotten, and these people become lazy and complacent, often chronic procrastinators. Sometimes I get angry, but then I realize that the world is fair. People will get what's coming to them. What we get, we cannot control. But what we do with the things we get, and the consequences, is entirely up to us.

There is a story about 3 men who got a certain amount of money from their master. One had 10 talents, one 5 and another only 1. Of course, it would be unfair that each of them got different amounts. The man with only 1 talent could have complained that he didn't have enough capital to invest or that it was unfair that the other men had more than him. But his actions were what his master punished him for. He was lazy. And that's the whole point, control what is given to you. Don't be spiteful, but in all things: give thanks.

But that doesn't mean that if you work for it, you'll get it. You have to work smart, and for the right reasons. People seem to think that "being in reality" means that you have to lead a normal life - study, work, get married, have children, die.

How real is that actually? Giving up your autonomy to the system? Sure, if you just follow the masses everything will be given to you. It's true, but is living a life chosen by others (I'm not saying whether this is intentional or not, but more of social conditioning) really living a real life?

Is lack of money and opportunities a reason to give up thinking big? Opening your mind to endless possiblities? To make the "impossible" come through? If you try to move mountains by yourself, it will never happen. Because of your lack of faith in yourself and, if you believe, God. Optimism is half the battle won. I told that to a friend who is kind of a worry wart, and he laughed at me. He said if it were that easy, he would just need to be confident and he wouldn't screw up. I told him yes. That was precisely how my "test" went and I pulled through just fine. But he wouldn't take my word for it. Perhaps it has to do with his personality, but unless you are willing to reject whatever the world tells you nothing will go right for you, sadly.

I'm not putting him down, but some things just have to be said. If you think you're going to fail, you will be nervous OR not put enough effort into doing it. And anything done half-assed or done without confidence WILL fail.

If asked, most people would say that they are open-minded. But how true is that actually? If I said you could fly, would you believe me? Jesus walked on water, and so did Peter. Faith CAN move mountains, if you believe. But yet again your purpose and intention has also to be considered. If you are trying to test God, then of course nothing will happen. God has nothing to prove to you.

Opening your mind is not being vulnerable and believing everything you hear without question. On the contrary, only the closed-minded people believe everything that society, their mothers, "they" tell them. Being closed-minded is not questioning the possibility of things and coming up with conclusions and thus being vulnerable to being manipulated by people you respect or are forced to "respect".

If we are beings of higher intelligence and are autonomous? Why do we choose to give up these God-given rights? Why do we choose to be slaves to the world and give up our ability to make choices? That, I will never understand.